【视频】| 13岁小女孩演讲《为什么我不够好》陈其五 ！ 青春期的痛-父母大学堂
近日，13岁的美国女孩Olivia Vella在亚利桑那州的Queen Creek中学发表了一场题为“为什么我不够好”的演讲。
在演讲中，Olivia揭露了自己成长过程中所遭受的来自同龄人的压力，回忆了她为了得到学校同学的认可，如何竭尽全力化妆、赶时髦、节食减肥、迎合他人。
但在演讲的最后，她告诉听众，不要过于在意别人的看法，要爱自己的与众不同：“他们都错了99听战歌网 ，你才是被爱的那个，你才是特别的那个，你已经足够美好了。”
她的演讲引起了外国网友们的强烈共鸣：
大家都说，她所描述的，就是曾经的我。
看着看着我忍不住哭了，她讲的几乎就是我的故事。她太棒了。
她的话真的让我产生了共鸣，因为在她这个年纪的时候，我的想法、忧虑、所作所为和她完全是一样的。
我过于强调把自己和别人进行比较，而不够爱自己，我用别人的看法折磨自己，这种思维方式至今对我的言行还有影响。
在观看这条视频时，我流下了眼泪，因为我曾经就是她所讲的女孩中的一员。
我渴望在学校被同学接纳。我患有弱视，我的同龄人因此嘲笑我，让我觉得自己很糟。我在班上成绩总是前20%，我很聪明，但这并不会让人觉得我很酷吴文献事件。
曾经的伤害直到成年之后还在影响着我。我已经45岁了，长年以来我的自尊心都很脆弱。
我害怕不被承认，还曾因此拒绝向别人敞开心扉。如果我能在十几岁的时候看到这个演讲就好了。
网友们纷纷赞扬她的勇气和智慧：
Olivia Vella真的很棒。并不是只有7年级的女孩才能产生这些感受，她之所以成为了英雄，是因为她站出来，勇敢地讲出了这些话。
Olivia，你向我们传达了如此的智慧，不仅仅是给“这个年龄的孩子”，也是给所有人的！干得漂亮！感谢你如此激情澎湃地与我们分享这些！
她是个很聪慧也很强大的年轻女孩，她应该把这些告诉全国的孩子们。
她在演讲中提到的种种问题也令人深思：
有人认为这提示我们，要让社会环境更加包容。
看到这么棒的小女孩讲出如此痛苦的故事，我的心都要碎了。我们的社会风气需要改变，要包容接纳一切。
有人认为Olivia想要告诉我们盖欧扎克 ，不要过于在意别人的想法，要爱自己的与众不同。
“爱自己会使你更加快乐。”这正是Olivia Vella想向人们传达的。
小姑娘们，你们本来的样子就已经非常完美了。
做你自己就好了，别听他们对你的评论。你一点也不糟糕。他们对你的独特之处说三道四，是因为他们永远也不能成为你，而正是因此你才成为你。
Olivia Vella的演讲中英对照版
为什么我还不够好？
首先好好洗个澡 你不想浑身恶臭的
然后挑一件时下流行的衣服
这使你不会沦为学校里众人的笑柄
第三化点妆至少别那么难看地出现在大家面前
可能你自己都不认识自己了
你的脸刺痛着非常痒
但就算痒得不行你也不能卸妆
否则你就毁掉了在你的丑脸上耗费了几个小时的妆容
第四别忘了给你的头发烫个优美的卷
你不能让学校里的人看到
你的头发像个触电的猴子般凌乱
第五把你肥硕的脚挤进一双会磨出血和水泡的匡威里
学校里大家都会穿的那种
你可不能成为不合群的那个
这一刻 当你在凝视镜中的自己时
你会看到一个陌生人
她似乎偷走了你的身体
并以一个全然不同的女孩子取而代之
你全身上下都是那么别扭
你花了几个小时来试着变漂亮
但尽管如此
你也永远不会和学校里那些漂亮姑娘一样的
你默默忍住几滴眼泪
但却感觉
压抑了海啸般铺天盖地的情感
你不能让别人察觉到你的眼泪
不然他们就不会像往常那样尊重你了
哦可能他们从来就没尊重过吧
为什么我就这么糟呢？
美丽太沉重了
第六走下公交车
第七加入一群人 跟他们一起走到学校
因为 天知道你是忍受不了孤独的
但你根本就不喜欢那帮人
他们是一群讨厌的家伙
总开恶心的玩笑
他们也取笑你放肆地冲你大笑
你明知不该跟他们走得太近
但是 嘿
他们可是学校里的“风云人物”啊
而你 非常渴望被人喜欢
就像人们喜欢这些人一样
你才是被套上枷锁的那个人
人们向你投掷西红柿来审判你
向你毫无保护的小脑袋
扔充满恨意的烂菜叶子
而你无法保护自己
因为你是孤立无援的 是身陷囹圄的 是无力抵抗的
你无法保护自己
还因为那些“风云人物”
代表了学校里至高无上的权力
他们说什么都是对的
你只能忍气吞声接受
每句评论 每个判决每种猜测
每个看法 每个鄙夷的眼神 每个标签
每句批判 每次审核 每条传言 每个评价
而这让你的自尊土崩瓦解
像一艘破船一样下沉
下沉
下沉
下沉
直至沉入黑暗和阴郁的海底
你看着其他女孩子时
无数想法倾泻而出：
我也想有那么漂亮的眼睛！
我也想有那么柔顺的秀发！
我也想像她那么苗条！
我也想有她那么整齐洁白的牙齿！
我也想和她一样自信！
我也想像她一样得到男生们的好感！
我为什么就没那么好呢？
生活太不公平了
第八 好好写作业
这是你人生中唯一有解的部分
你以学业为豪
这可能是仅存的一项值得你夸耀的东西
你努力学习
为了看到老师在赞赏你时 脸上熠熠生辉的笑容
老师的赞扬是一场天降的甘霖
带来美丽的彩虹
是一道灿烂的阳光
照亮你心中一片甜美的花园
这是你仅存的少数幸福瞬间
但聪明并不能使你受欢迎
事实上在别人眼中 你就是个书呆子
“死脑筋” “人肉计算器” “高分低能” “怪人” “老师的宠儿” “马屁精”
他们用你能想到的任何恶语攻击你
嫉妒如空气污染一般吞噬掉你的彩虹
如推土机一般毁掉你心中的花朵
这些莫名其妙的东西像一个天降的bug
摧毁了你的幸福
优秀的成绩除了折磨
并不能为你带来任何好处
为什么？难道我还不够好吗？
还是算了吧
第九 漫长的一天终于来到尽头
准备上床睡觉吧
第十 脱掉衣服 穿上睡衣
哇 我今天又胖了吗？
第十一 放下你的头发
哇 我的头发乱得像个拖布一样
第十二 卸妆
我都不敢照镜子了
这就是我生活的每天每夜
我无法掌控它
人们告诉我
你不能把苹果和橙子放在一起比较
人们告诉我
你的个性太扭曲了
人们告诉我
你要为成为自己而感恩
这些年的中学生活里
你要独自一人踏上寻找自我的旅程
有些时候 你没法控制发生在你身上的事
激流会把你推离航线
但是变得受欢迎并不总是件好事
你告诉自己
我只是想被人喜欢 被人接纳
但是为了变瘦不吃饭和割腕并不能解决这个问题
你渴望变成别的女孩子
但当她们看到你时
也希望能成为你
大家都觉得
女孩子就应该有腰细肤白巨乳丰臀
大家都觉得
女孩子就应该浓妆艳抹貌美如花
大家都觉得
女孩子就应该衣着暴露 和男孩们乱搞
这样才会开心 才会酷
但他们错了
你才是被爱的那个
你才是特别的那个
你才是美丽的那个
你才是聪慧的那个
你才是才华横溢的那个
你能赢得所有的尊重
你可以放开了吃东西
你是70亿人中不可或缺的一个
最重要的是
你已经足够美好了
英文版：
Why am I not good enough？
One
Take a shower. You don’t want to smell.
Two
Pick out an outfit that will fit in with the latest trends and won’t make you the laughing stock at school, more than you already are.
Three
Put on some make-up so you can actually show your face in public and be a little bit pretty. You can’t even recognize yourself and your face tingles with an unbelievable itch you can’t satisfy otherwise you’ll have ruined the hours of meticulous pain you applied to your hideous face.
Four
Don’t forget to style your hair in elegant curls. You can’t let everyone at school see how your hair frizzes up like an electrocuted monkey, naturally.
Five
Shove your fat feet into those toe-pitching, blood blistering converse that everyone at school is wearing, and you cannot be the odd one out.
As you gaze into the bathroom mirror铁树果, you see a stranger that somehow stole your reflection and replaced it with a completely different girl. Every part of your outfit is uncomfortable. But even though you spend hours trying to look pretty, you will neverbe as good as those other girls at school.
You are actually holding back a few tears金运之旅, but you feel like you are holding back a tsunami of emotion. You can’t let everyone else know how you feel or else they will never respect you the same way they used to. Or did they ever. “Why am I not good enough?” Beauty is pain.
Six
Get off the bus.
Seven
Find a group of people you could walk to class with because heaven knows you can’t just walk alone.
But you don’t even like these people. They cuss and make dirty jokes a lot, and they laugh and make fun of you. You know you shouldn’t hang out with them. But hey, they are the popular kids, and you just want people to like you平安常青树, like they like them.
You are in the stocks, as people throw judging tomatoes and hating heads of lettuce at your insecure little head.
You cannot stand up for yourself, because you are alone, trapped, and defenseless.And you cannot stand up for yourself, because these popular kids are like the royalty of the school, and that apparently what they say and do, goes.
You take each comment, each judgement, each assumption, each opinion, each strange look, each mark, each criticism, each review, each report, each assessment, and with it, your self-esteem plummets, like a sinking ship. Down, down, down. Into the dark and dreary depths below.
You look at all the other girls黑金教父 , your mind racing a mile a minute. “I wish I had her eyes. I wish I had her hair. I wish I was as skinny asher. I wish I had her perfectly straight white teeth. I wish that I had hersocial confidence. I wish as many boys like me as they liked her. ”
“Why am I not good enough?” Life isn’t fair.
Eight
Get your work done. The only part of your life that seems solvable is the actual school work. You take pride in your work, because it is possibly the only thing special about you.
You do it to see the radiant smiles on your teachers’ faces as they applaud your work. The joyful praise is the gentle rainthat brings forth a magnificent rainbow. The radiant sunshine that brings forthfields of sweet daisies——One of the only things that brings you happiness.
But it is not popular to be smart. In fact, you are seen as a nerd.
Too smart. Human calculator. Brainiac, geek, teacher’s pet, suck up——whatever wonderful name you could think of.
Your peers’ jealousy is the pollution that prevents a rainbow. The bulldozer that plows through the fields of once-golden daisies. The intangible object that crushes your happiness like a bug. “A”s are getting you nothing but torment.
“Why, am I not good enough?” Just get over it.
Nine
It’s the end of the day, get ready for bed.
Ten
Undress, get your pyjamas on. “Wow, did I get fatter today?”
Eleven
Undo your hair. Wow, my hair looks like a mop.
Twelve
Wash off all your make-up. I can’t even look at myself.
This is my life, every day. I can’t control it.
I’ve been told I can’t compare apples and oranges. I’ve been told I’m distorted, I’ve been told I have to be grateful for who I am.
But going through your middle school years, you are onyour own journey to find yourself on a small jet. And sometimes, you cannot control what happens to you. The turbulence will throw you off course.
But, popular isn’t always a good thing. You tell yourself “I just want people to like me, I just want to be accepted”. But skipping meals and marking up your wrist isn’t going to fix that. You look at other girls wishing you were them, but other girls are looking at you, wishing they were you.
Society infers, girls have to have skinny waists, tan skin, long silky hair, perfectly straight teeth, big butts and etc.
Society infers, girls have to wear tons of make-up to be pretty.
Society infers我在震中 , girls have to wear skanky clothing and do inappropriate things with boys to be happy and considered cool.
But society is wrong.
You are loved. You are precious. You are beautiful. You are talented. You are capable. You are deserving of respect. You can eat that meal. You are one in seven billion.
And most of all, you are good enough.
'Why am I not good enough?'
7th-grader's slam poem goes viral
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A Queen Creek seventh-grade girl's powerful slam poem about the struggles of adolescence and her final inspiring message have spread quickly through social media, receiving millions of views in recent days.
Olivia Vella presented the poem to her class as her final assignment in her writing classat Queen Creek Middle School.
The school initially posted the video of Vella's performanceon its Facebook pageMay 23.
'A little bit pretty'
Vella's poem talks about the pressures young teens茼蒿炒肉 , particularly girls, face to fit in.
Vella lists 12 steps to completing a day in her life, starting with showering and ending with washing off her makeup —after which,she responds that "I can't even look at myself."
But for Vella and other young girls, there's a lot of activity in between.
Vella's second step is to "pick out an outfit that will fit in with the latest trends and won't make you the laughingstock of the school, more than you already are."
She then talks about putting on makeup in an effort to be "a little bit pretty."
"You can't even recognize yourself and your face tingles with an unbelievable itch you can't satisfy, otherwise you will ruin the meticulous painting you applied to your hideous face," Vella says in the poem.
She then talks about the pressure to style her hair in "elegant curls" that hide her hair's natural frizziness and wearing uncomfortable Converse shoes that everyone else is wearing because she "cannot be the odd one out."
"As you gaze into the bathroom mirror, you see a stranger that somehow stole your reflection and replaced it with a completely different girl望奎天气预报 ," Vella says.
Vella talks about seeing the other girls in school, wishing she were them and doing whatever it takes to fit in.
"You are actually holding back a few tears, but you feel like you're holding back a tsunami of emotion you can't let anyone else know that you feel, otherwise they will never respect you the same way they used to," Vella says. "Or did they ever?"
Vella then talks about arriving at school, getting off the bus and desperately searching for people to walk to class with for fear of being gawked at for walking alone.
She finally settles on hanging out with a group of people she doesn't care much for because of their crude humor and the way they make fun of her, but settles with them because they're popular.
"You know you shouldn't hang out with them, but hey, they are the popular kids and you just want people to like you like they like them."
Vella talks about not being able to stand up for herself after hearing rude comments and put-downs because they're popular and "apparently whatever they say and do goes."
She talks about trying to shake each comment, criticism and opinion of her but feeling her self-esteem sink further and further with each one.
"You look at all the other girls, your mind racing a mile a minute," Vella says. "I wish I had her eyes, I wish I had her hair, I wish I was as skinny as her,卢驭龙 I wish I had her perfectly straight, white teeth. I wish I had her social confidence. I wish as many boys liked me as they liked her. Why am I not good enough?"
Believing in yourself
At last, Vella says there's some relief from the social pressures of adolescence with schoolwork, which she calls "the only part of your life that seems solvable."
Vella describes the "radiant smiles on your teachers' faces" as they applaud a job well done, reveling in the "joyful praises, the gentle rain that brings forth a magnificent rainbow, the radiant sunshine that brings forth fields of sweet daisies."
But that relief doesn't last long, Vella says, because peers start dubbing you a nerd, a geek or a teacher's pet when they know you get good grades.
"Your peers' jealousy is the pollution that prevents a rainbow, the bulldozer that plows through the fields of once-golden daisies, the intangible object that crushes our happiness like a bug," Vella says.
"A's are getting you nothing but torment. Why am I not good enough宁都州人 ?"
At the end of the day, Vella undresses to ask herself whether she "got fatter" throughout the day and undoes her hair that she describes as looking "like a mop."
She washes off her makeup, revealing a reflection that she's not happy with because of society's unattainable standards.
"This is my life every day," Vella says as she nears the end of her poem. "I can't control it. I've been told I can't compare apples and oranges, I've been told I'm distorted, I've been told I have to be grateful for who I am."
But even though people mean well when they try to use those phrases to encourage her, Vella says societal pressure makes them hard to believe.
That's why Vella concludes her poem with saying society is wrong, and that using unhealthy escapisms from adolescent pressureonly make matters worse.
"You tell yourself, 'I just want people to like me, I just want to be accepted,' " Vella says. "But skipping meals and marking up your wrist isn't going to fix that."
Vella says that while you might be looking at another girl and wishing you were them, she might be looking at you and thinking the same thing.
She rejects society's beauty ideals of thin waists and lots of makeup, the standards of "skanky clothes" and "doing inappropriate things with boys" in order to be considered cool by peers.
"You are loved, you are precious, you are beautiful, you are talented, you are capable, you are deserving of respect, you can eat that meal, you are one in seven billion," Vella says in conclusion.
"And most of all, you are good enough."
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